The Me First! Blog

There is a clock in your head and it is not yours.

It says married by then. Established by then. Sorted out by then. It says that other women your age have figured something out that you have not, ...

There is a fantasy most of us carry, and almost nobody says out loud because it sounds childish once it is in words.

Someone is going to notice.

Someone will see how much you are carrying and ho...

I am not going to tell you to get up at 5am.

The 5am morning routine is a beautiful piece of content and a terrible piece of advice for most women, because it is built for people who control their ...

Say it out loud. Selfish.

Notice what happens in your body. For most women there is a small flinch, a tightening somewhere between the throat and the stomach. That flinch is not natural. It was ins...

You cannot change what you have not looked at, and most of us have never looked.

We audit our finances, sometimes. We audit our calendars, occasionally. Almost nobody sits down once a year and asks...

You did it. You held the line. And instead of the mature, understanding response you had quietly hoped for, you got heat.

The sigh. The cold reply. The "wow, okay." The three days of clipped one-wo...

Count your sorries for one day. Just count them, do not change anything.

Sorry, could I just squeeze past. Sorry for the late reply. Sorry, quick question. Sorry, I think that might be my seat. Sor...

Someone once told you it takes twenty-one days to form a habit. It is one of the most durable pieces of misinformation in personal development, and it has made a lot of people feel like failures on da...

I want to take something away from you, and I want you to let me, because it has been costing you a great deal.

The belief that you are handling it because your reasons are good.

You have been r...

You know the one.

It has been sitting in your chest for somewhere between three weeks and eleven years. You have had it in the shower forty times. You have drafted the message and deleted it. Every...

Notice what you do before you let yourself sit down.

You finish the last thing. You clear the surfaces. You get to a point where you could not reasonably be accused of anything. And then, permissio...

You are the one who notices.

That the milk is nearly out. That the form is due Friday. That your mother-in-law's birthday is next week and someone should probably. That the team has not been told a...